Beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder, but sometimes we just don’t feel as attractive as we would like to. This is especially true as we get older.
Feeling more attractive while dating, can boost your confidence. This makes each experience more enjoyable. There are strategies that can enhance your self-esteem in dating. It is important to remember that it’s not just about your outward appearance. It is also about your attitude and body language that adds to your attractiveness.
Here are some tips to help you feel more attractive when dating:
- The first step is to put some effort into personal grooming. Hygiene is very important. This includes your hair, your teeth, your skin and your scent. Deodorant is always appreciated! A little cologne can a nice touch, but I stress the word little.
- Having a classy personal clothing style that shows your personality is great practice. When you look good, you feel good, which steps up your self-esteem and confidence. Be mindful of wearing things too showy or too sexy on the first few days. You’re interested in meeting a potential partner, and not partaking in a booty-call scenario.
- I always suggest having a couple of go-to dating outfits in your closet ready to wear. One of the most frustrating things about going on a date is not knowing how you should dress. When you’re organized and have a feel-good outfit readily available, it takes the pressure off of the first few dates.
- Looking attractive doesn’t have to be expensive. There are many consignment stores available if money is a concern. There are many wonderful facial products online that can enhance your skincare routine, giving you a youthful glow. (I bought a cupping system and micro-needling kit that I use regularly at home.)
- A new hairstyle can help put a spring in your step and give you a refreshed outlook. Men could try adding a nicely coiffed beard to their look, or invest in some trendy jeans or fitted sportswear. Changing up your appearance every few years is always a good investment. It can give you a youthful attitude due to how it makes you feel.
- Body language is very important. When your body language is open and positive, it shows you’re approachable and self-assured. First impressions will make or break a second date. If you are unaware of how you come across to others, ask your friends or family for input.
- Happiness is attractive and contagious. Show your fun side and leave the serious conversations for a later time. The first few dates should be light-hearted.
- Maintaining a regular fitness routine is also extremely important for mental and physical health. It not only clears any negative thinking, but it also enhances your energy. You give off positive vibrations from the endorphins that exercise provides.
- Focus on improving your confidence. This is extremely attractive to both sexes. I sincerely feel that this is more important than outward appearance. Mingle often with other people and join in conversations. Stay current in world matters so you will always have something to talk about. When you’re comfortable in your own skin, you will always come across as attractive.
- A big smile and eye contact are always important when meeting someone. It automatically makes your date feel comfortable and relaxed.
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Having a positive outlook is also another strong feature to embrace.
Being positive makes having a conversation on a date so much more rewarding. Being your authentic self is so important. Please do not focus on your imperfections. We all have them, but we don’t need to talk about them. Show your playful side first. A date is not an interview, so don’t treat it as such. Look at it as if you’re taking a friend to lunch. It’s fun and it’s casual without stress. Choose a venue that you are comfortable in. Some men and women feel intimidated in certain establishments.
If you are generally a shy person, work on opening up with people you come across on a daily basis. This will help give you more confidence when you do go out on a date with someone you’re interested in. Practice makes perfect and works well when using this scenario. It’s not easy for some people to show their outgoing side.
Be communicative, but be careful not to give out too much information too quickly. Showing vulnerability early on should be avoided. Unfortunately, there are controlling people who look for this personality trait. Learn how to ask positive questions that open up the conversation. Make sure this is reciprocated. This will help you gain confidence when the conversation flows between you.
Learning how to feel attractive and confident is definitely a learning curve. This is especially true if you’ve had painful breakups in the past. Don’t pressure yourself by rushing into things. It takes time to build self-esteem back up again after heartbreak! Take baby steps so you can learn to trust yourself and others.
Make sure you’re dating people who are an extension of who you already are.
Many people are attracted to someone because of what is missing in their own lives. They look for someone to improve their life by relying on them in a dependent way. Opposites often attract, but they seldom stay together for the long haul. If you repeat dating and relationship patterns, you must rethink your choices.
You should always be comfortable with who you are as you stand alone. Please don’t depend on someone to make you feel whole. You want to have compatibility, similar goals, values and morals with your potential partner. It is crucial to build a mutual rapport with the person you are choosing to spend your life with. Respect between both partners is essential.
Always listen to how you feel and what your instincts are telling you!
Safety always comes first. Don’t date anyone for a second time if you feel any warning signs or major red flags. Dating is a training ground, as I’ve mentioned many times. Learning the lessons quickly will bring you closer to meeting your special person. When you feel attractive and confident, it shows! This will continue to naturally draw people towards you due to your magnetic energy.
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